Sex and Love

I just had an epiphany about sex and love. Sex is just sex until you've been 'in love' and then sex is so much more. What does that mean? Well, for those who have experienced the joy of being in love, if you've ever tried having sex with someone else, after you've been in love, and somehow lost that love, then sex feels like such an invasion of privacy with anyone else unless you are one of the lucky and very rare few to fall in love again.

For many who have been through a divorce/separation (depending on who left who) or lost a partner to death, it can take years, sometimes an eternity to get back into bed with another person. That special bond of having sexual pleasure with the love of your life is sacred and sometimes it's almost impossible to fill that void.

For most men, they don't have the emotional or spiritual attachment to sex as what women do, until they feel the ethereal force of what being 'in love' does to them. But most men, rarely fall in love with a woman, they fall in love with a lifestyle - a companion who does things for them, someone who complements them with their political/religious/family views, someone who mothers them, someone who takes care of all the things they don't want to take care of. Hence why it's so easy to stray, because the emotional attachment isn't there to the woman, only the lifestyle that their woman gives them. And some women are the same - they love the fact that they are being taken care of by a power man, with a great paying job or employment status, that they make other women jealous of her because she has an attractive man to be by her side, but when that man doesn't provide what she wants when she wants it, then she strays too.

But when you're in love, nothing ever comes between you... in your sex life or your companionship. You devote yourself to each other, the sparkle in your eye for each other never fades, you could never think of another, even if a stunning model crossed your path. You are completely satisfied with your chosen partner as the complement you in every way but most of all, 'you're in love'... you never fight because you think alike, are spiritually united almost like its a sixth sense and can't stand being away from each other, and if you have to be apart, you think of each other incessantly.

You can love as many people in your life as you want, but you can only ever be 'in love' once. That's the truth about love... and how sexual fulfilment can be truly gratifying.