What do Men Really Want?

I was reading an article the other day on a sure fail safe way to attract a man and keep him. I understand the principles behind 'what men really want' but feel that they are totally self-centred and have nothing to do with actually being in a relationship... it's all about them! What do you think?

No 1: A man always likes to know that he will win.
A man's expected thought process: A woman just sits there and accepts that no matter what, he is ALWAYS in control.
A woman's expected thought process: Does that make us women play the game to make them 'think' they are winning, or that we change the wording around to make them 'think' that they came up with the idea? Or do we just accept that we can never be right unless we agree with him?

No 2: A man can only focus on one thing at a time. So, if we interrupt them with emails, text messages, phone calls, etc when they are completely focused on something else - that is work, fixing the car, getting a haircut, shopping for groceries, at the gym, etc, and he doesn't respond in 'our' expected timeframe, then start pestering him to find out why in't he answering, then he will only think that we are a pain in the ass and start walking away. But when he is with you, he expects your total devotion and attention to him, and if you don't give it to him, then he will start to stray and find it elsewhere.
A man's expected thought process: Why can't she leave me alone? This is starting to get annoying. OR Why isn't she with answering my calls? This is making me so horny right now, I need someone to help me take the edge off, and she's not there when I want her. I want her when I want her!!!
A woman's expected thought process: A return text, email or phone call is just common courtesy just to say 'I'm busy, give me half an hour/two hours/till tomorrow and I will get back to you.'

No 3: A man feels safe when the relationship brings him calm and happiness. This relates a little to No 2 on the basis that excessive attempts to contact him when 'he is not ready' can be irritating for him and take him away from his calm and happy place. Whereas, a peaceful voice, dinner on the table, a beer in the hand and his favourite TV show on the box would bring him happily home to his inner sanctum (or back to the 1950s).
A man's expected thought process: If she talks about her issues with her mother one more time, I think I might just have a couple more beers at the pub with my mates before I get home to numb the whinging. But, if I come home from work and someone gets promoted before me, and I want to air it out, I want to know she will be there for me.
A woman's expected thought process: So if I have troubles at work, with friends, family or a neighbour, and I want to air it out my vulnerabilities with someone who is 'supposed' to have my side, I risk losing him on the basis that my life is shit and he is sick of hearing about it, when all I want is someone who says he loves me to be supportive.

No 4: A man is attracted to a woman who can 'give' him something of value.
OK, this doesn't mean materialistic things, but it definitely can. It means that the man can get his 'calm' and 'happy' place within a relationship if he can feed off the woman's happy exuberance, good friendships, loving family, great looking kids, and give him a sense that he 'deserves to 'belong' with this woman.
A man's expected thought process: I've hit the jackpot!
A woman's expected thought process: If I'm so good, what does he offer me in return?

No 5: It all goes back to a man wants to 'WIN.'
Including him 'winning' you over, not you wanting to 'win' him over. It's official, women are not allowed to chase.

Arrggh... it kills me inside that if all this psychology is true and men are only in a relationship for their own selfish needs, then what is the point? Will a woman ever find happiness in a heterosexual relationship? The only way I see it being possible is if she constantly tortures him by not making herself available to him, making him want her more and more. But love shouldn't be a game... it should be mutuality, sharing and caring. We should all be more considerate to each other's needs and communicate our strengths and weaknesses to each other, have them instilled in our brains so that when the time comes, we can acknowledge each other respectfully with our communication, not just be ignored or treated like our feelings don't matter.

But sadly, with the relationships I've been in, and I'm sure many other women have been in, those five points are generally what keeps a man interested in you, yet you can't have the same expectations when you are just following your heart.