How many friends (or even yourself) have said they have had a run of bad luck? How many times do you find yourself attracting similar people to be around you to the people you've tried to run away from? How many times have you felt jealous of watching people constantly get the job they want, be able to buy the car you want, or travel the place you want to see? It happens constantly WHEN you continue to feel sorry for yourself wishing it were you and not doing anything about making your life the best it can be.
For instance, I met these people who continually said they only wanted positive people to be around them, and if you weren't a positive person, they limited their time, sometimes even stopped making the effort to see or speak to their family and friends. But when they were around people who've known them for years, or even people they met through mutual friends, they could only say negative things to them... either by laughing at them making the other people feel uncomfortable, judging them, telling them off like they were a child, not wanting to hear their bad news concerns, essentially if someone did something in their presence or talked to them about something they had done, and it wasn't the way these people would do it, cope with it, etc... they would put a negative spin on it, making those who confided in them, feel undervalued. Needless to say, people aren't making the effort to be around them.
Then there's the 'bad luck' people. They get pulled over by the cops all the time, they crash their cars, their spouses leave them, the laundry floods, they buy milk past it's use-by date, their bed breaks as they have a gut full and just want to sleep it all away... Usually when one bad thing happens, it snowballs, and everything goes wrong... as does it happen the other way - when one good thing happens, it snowballs and you're surrounded by so many good things in your life. Either way, you just can't break the cycle, even if you want to. And the main reason why you can't break it, is because you're mindset is stuck in a way that you are only focusing on the bad and not seeing through it all to create the good. I know when my marriage was ending, I could foresee all the things my ex would 'try' for, and everything I thought, he did making it a completely miserable time. And because I focused on it, other areas of my life starting falling apart and I literally lost everything except my kids. It took over a year after everything was settled for me to start making some positive moves in my life.... get my book back on track, do things that made me happy for both my boys like traveling and buying us a home on the lake, and in doing so, we now surround ourselves with inspiring people.
How about when you're seeking a mate? Do you focus on the things you don't want, or do you focus on the things you do want in a mate? I know when I first found my lover, I focused on all the things I wanted in a man and believe me, he was everything that I wanted, except that he was extremely conflicted in what he wanted in his life, therefore we couldn't be, but after him I focused on the things that my ex husband had that I couldn't stand, and guess what? Those were the kind of guys who were attracted to me... needy, lacking financial security, wanting a mother to look after them... guys who loved what I had to offer, but couldn't offer me anything in return. And the guys I were interested, who had spark, attractive, independence, a sense of humour and enjoyed life, they just weren't interested in me, probably because I wasn't creating the spark that they were looking for.
So if we can learn anything over this holiday season, maybe we should start projecting what we want in our lives, making an effort to save, laugh, smile, say nice things, appreciate the little things, and remember our way... somehow it might just all fall into place - if it's love, a new career, better finances, travel, companionship, comfort, warmth, or an amazing experience, if we send out the right energy, we will attract all the good we want in our lives and be responsible for our own luck.
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