As children, we learn the basics about right and wrong... if it hurts other people physically or emotionally, it's wrong. If it's taking something that's not yours, destroying property, being disrespectful, it's wrong. And most kids get it. Some are rule breakers to get attention, others have learning difficulties and take a while to understand the depths of some of the concepts, but most children by a certain age grasp what is right and what is wrong.
So how is it that some adults, who are righteously religious have different rules for right and wrong, depending on if they go by their religious beliefs rather than the moral and lawful beliefs/regulations? That they can say that some of the great men of the Bible, leaders of their time, were great sinners, therefore if they were, it's OK for them to be a great sinner too. Yet, what they don't realise, is that their sins are immoral and unethical in today's society. Is that why politicians and sports stars like Arnold Schwartzenegger, Bill Clinton & Tiger Woods will tell the world they were wrong about their affairs to show they have an inch of remorse, yet in reality they are showing no respect for the women they were involved with, no respect for their wives, and certainly no respect for the moral standing voters/fans who support them on the grounds that they are solid upstanding citizens that they want to 'lead' them in their field. The stupid thing is, they have broken their religious rule by having the affair - the wrong - and believe that if they repent, they will be forgiven by all for their 'slip up.' It's only a 'slip up' if it happens once, not over and over again, yet they still beg to be forgiven. Why should they be forgiven if they keep making the same mistake again? Why should their wives take them back? They go against the laws of their marriage, and they go against the laws of their country by becoming bigamists. Yet, they don't get punished, besides a little bit of media that might upset their campaigning for a month or so, but then it all becomes yesterday's news. Unless their wives are morally strong enough to tell them to 'f*** off.' That is the ONLY way they will learn... but then again, some love the adrenalin rush of the naughtiness of the affair.
So this begs the question, are the wives encouraging their husbands to cheat on them? The fact that they keep going back, brushing the affairs under the mat essentially gives their husbands the 'green light' to keep going, makes it possibly so... either because of their religious 'forgiveness' or because they just want to be a 'kept' woman. I was watching an episode of 'House Husbands' (great Aussie drama!) tonight, and one of the main character's mothers was one of those wives. She told their daughter that her father had had a one off fling, but when she confronted him about it, she discovered it was a 40 year affair, and it was only after the other woman's husband died, they decided that they wanted to be together for good, and stop sneaking around. When the daughter confronted the mother about it, she said she knew about it the entire time, but decided to stay around to try and win him back, but never succeeded. How sad is it for a woman to feel so dependent on a man, that she would live with her husband's infidelities for 40 years? Is it a power trip or is it the fear of God in them, that if they fail in their marriage, they will be sent to hell?
That's my moral dilemma... how can you a live a life on Earth, a life that constantly breaks your heart because you know that your husband is cheating on you, or it could be your wife cheating on you, feeling miserable about the whole thing, creating an emotional 'hell' inside you and putting up with it, because you have been taught in your Christian values that if you divorce, don't believe in God or that God will help your spouse so you must stand by them, you will be sent to hell, rather than live an eternal life in Heaven? Especially when it is 'faith' nor reality telling them that there is actually the possibility of an eternal life in Heaven... What happens when there isn't? They die and end up in the ground in a box with no afterlife... What did they waste 'this' life for? Why put yourself through all that torture for the remaining years of your life, not knowing when they will cheat on you again, or knowing that they are continuing to do it, while you sit in your little corner at home tending to the home duties or the children, knowing that there is someone more respectful and more loveable just around the corner who will cherish you for who YOU are?
It's incredible to think that spouses know that their husband or wife is a serial cheater and they stick by them. They must have so little self-respect if they do... I'm sorry if you are struggling with this issue in your life right now, but you need to know that you deserve better than to be betrayed, disrespected and lied to by the person you placed the most amount of trust into. Trust never comes back, unless they learn the valuable lesson of what is right and what is wrong in today's culture, not in a book that was written over 2000 years ago.
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