Your One and Only True Love...

It's amazing how you know when you find your perfect man (or woman) and know in your heart that you will never have anyone else in your life who will make you feel the way that person made you feel. The way they instinctively know when something is wrong, when they do something spontaneously fun or romantic for you just to make your day brighter, or hold onto you in a way that's a perfect fit. You somehow have an intuitive instinct about anything good or bad that's going on with them and you would do anything to help them through it. It's a love that is so profound, so unbreakable that you simply will do anything to be with them or for them.

But what happens when your true love is taken away from you before you're ready? An accident, a medical condition, an unsolved murder? Do you live your life wishing they would come back and look after you even when you know they can't? Do you look in all types of places just to find a replacement who can be just as perfect as your true love? Or do you know that you've had the best of the best and you will remain the rest of your life as a single, independent person, not wanting anyone else to get close to you?

It's hard.. and it's hard not letting people get close to you even when they want to. You know that no matter what, any new person would never live up to the love and life you had with your true love. You would almost always feel like you are betraying your true love by being with someone else intimately. It feels impossible because the only way you envisaged your life together is if you died in each others arms at the same time...

And it happens... couples just can't cope without being with each other. My uncle's in-laws died within 10 days of each other completely unexpectedly, a friend's parents died 16 weeks apart recently, and there are many homes I go into and it is said that the parents died within the same year. A true love, no matter how turbulent times can be due to poverty, sickness, work concerns or family concerns, will do absolutely anything for each other to maintain a sense of warmth and happiness within each other at ALL times. Anything else, is far from the essence of what 'true love' means.

So when your true love is gone, you do everything to keep your mind off ever having another love. You look after your children, you volunteer your time to any charity possible, you travel and experience the world, you consume yourself in work, you do everything to ensure you don't have any down time, because you know if you have down time, all you do is think about your true love, wish you could be holding your true love, feeling their touch and crying in silence wanting them back.

You know in your heart if your 'true love' is with you or not... spiritually, emotionally or physically. And when you have it, hold onto it forever... as forever is worth holding onto...