When I take my boys out for dinner, as all boys are, they get bored. So a few years back, I created the 'Alphabet Game.' What we do is, we choose a topic (topics are dependent on age group).. the topic could be 'foods we love,' 'car brands,' 'games to play,' 'types of animals.' Anything you like, then you go around in a circle, and each person has to come up with a 'thing' from that topic. As my boys get older, and get used to the game, they come up with some funny antics... for instance, today's topic was 'flavours.' This is how we went...
Starting with the 8 year old...
A = apple
B = banana (me)
C = cranberry (the 10 year old)... we piped up and said 'what about chocolate?'
D = dill
E = egg flip
F = flavour
G = grape
H = hot chilli
I = ice-cream flavour
J = jalapeno
K = kalamata olive flavour
L = lime
M = malt
N = nutty
O = orange
P = pie flavour (after the ASDF movie cartoons at the moment!)
Q = quince
R = raspberry
S = sarcasm! (yes, sarcasm has a flavour!)
T = turtle
U = urine (!?!)
V = vanilla
W = water flavour
X = xylophone (it tastes woody!)
Y = yak flavour
Z = zippy-de-doo-dah flavour
So as you can see, we have a bit of fun with it. We've done electronic games, countries, city names, what you'd find in an Italian restaurant, what you'd find in a Chinese restaurant, movies, actors, singers, bands, boys names, girls names, cartoon characters, you name it, anything can be a topic... and for the little ones, you do tend to help them out.
It's a great game to expand their knowledge, but also keep them under control in a public place, especially when the food's taking it's time to get to them and they are hungry. They always come up with something and say 'oh can I do "P?"' because they have the most perfect word for the game, but we always say we'll wait and see who's turn it is when we get there. Some nights we might have three or four games on different subject matter.
So when you're stuck for keeping the kids quiet when you're out and about, try the Alphabet Game... it will keep your sanity at bay!!
Wednesday, 27 June 2012
Thursday, 21 June 2012
It Takes a Village to Raise a Child
I have a Facebook friend who has just written this as her status, possibly because she was angry with some of her fellow villagers who have chosen not to help with her step-son. So it got me thinking... in our modern day society of broken families, estranged aunts and uncles and elderly grandparents who really can't do much with their withering health, who is in the 'modern-day village?'
I guess we first need to define who the villagers are. I will use my own personal examples of who could be in my 'village' for my boys and I. There are grandparents, aunts, uncles and cousins, there is their father and all his siblings and his parents, but then their is our community.. generally the school community - teachers, friends' parents, friends, sports coaches and school crossing supervisors for a start, but then we can broaden that to shop assistants, police officers, bus drivers, etc. Every single person my children meet is someone who can teach my children something new. It maybe crossing the road more safely, tying their shoelaces a new way, teaching them a new way to peel an orange to make it more enjoyable... anything. Each person can contribute something valuable to my boys' lives.
The Africans came up with the 'proverb' "it takes a village to raise a child" and there are variations on a theme. Most suggest that even though a child has biological parents, they don't necessarily have to live in the same home as their parents. They are part of the village and any villager can take them in if they need a bed for the night or some food. It is a comforting thought isn't it? That your family is the community, not just your parents. It's liberating for parents and child, but our financial responsibilities and our selfishness in western society dictate our abilities and refine our responsibilities to who we bring into this world... as a HUGE generalisation (as I know many who don't).
So, in our first-world community, can we bring back these simple values into our community? Possibly not without legal contracts, financial expectations and changing our hectic lives. But if our 'village' is reduced only to blood relations of the child, then it should be possible. There are many loving families who would do anything for their grand-children or nieces and nephews, but unfortunately not all families are made that way. As a parent, sometimes you just need that time apart to clear your head to be a better parent, some family members see it, others ignore it.
For those families who ignore your need for help and defy the proverb, maybe it's time to move to Africa and get a little more love from the community! :)
I guess we first need to define who the villagers are. I will use my own personal examples of who could be in my 'village' for my boys and I. There are grandparents, aunts, uncles and cousins, there is their father and all his siblings and his parents, but then their is our community.. generally the school community - teachers, friends' parents, friends, sports coaches and school crossing supervisors for a start, but then we can broaden that to shop assistants, police officers, bus drivers, etc. Every single person my children meet is someone who can teach my children something new. It maybe crossing the road more safely, tying their shoelaces a new way, teaching them a new way to peel an orange to make it more enjoyable... anything. Each person can contribute something valuable to my boys' lives.
The Africans came up with the 'proverb' "it takes a village to raise a child" and there are variations on a theme. Most suggest that even though a child has biological parents, they don't necessarily have to live in the same home as their parents. They are part of the village and any villager can take them in if they need a bed for the night or some food. It is a comforting thought isn't it? That your family is the community, not just your parents. It's liberating for parents and child, but our financial responsibilities and our selfishness in western society dictate our abilities and refine our responsibilities to who we bring into this world... as a HUGE generalisation (as I know many who don't).
So, in our first-world community, can we bring back these simple values into our community? Possibly not without legal contracts, financial expectations and changing our hectic lives. But if our 'village' is reduced only to blood relations of the child, then it should be possible. There are many loving families who would do anything for their grand-children or nieces and nephews, but unfortunately not all families are made that way. As a parent, sometimes you just need that time apart to clear your head to be a better parent, some family members see it, others ignore it.
For those families who ignore your need for help and defy the proverb, maybe it's time to move to Africa and get a little more love from the community! :)
Thursday, 14 June 2012
The Varying Degrees of Single Parenthood
As a parent, most of us put our kids needs first. For instance, we wouldn't say to your 11 year old that he can't play his soccer match this week because you want to go out with some friends. Their timetable and their life dictates your life, and yes, you are the one who organised him to play soccer in the first place, and encouraged it, so you have to make sure that he gets to the game and watch it, so that you can be proud of his achievements, and be there when he gets an injury. It's what parents do.
But as a separated family, the responsibility of the planned activities for your children is usually left to the one parent and there is a stigma for the other parent to think that one parent is dictating, or controlling the lives of the children and the other parent doesn't want to be controlled by their ex-partner anymore, so they refuse to be involved.
Some families are lucky, and have amicable relationships with their ex-partners, share the costs of raising their children together, have equal time with their children, enabling each parent to have a life outside their family unit and are able to have a balanced life. Others, those who have their children 100% of the time, are generally given smaller support payments, have no physical support and have rare or no contact with their children's other parent. It's contact that becomes more intrusive than productive. But the parent who has the 100% custody has no life of their own as they spend all their time working to survive, take care of their children and the general housework/accounting needed to run a household. There's no spare money to hire a babysitter, not enough hours in the day to do everything and they wake up each morning to exist, not live. Most understand it's a temporary situation until their children are old enough to be more independent and maybe start contributing to the household financially, but others can't see any light.
Statistics show that 30% of single parents receive less than $150 per child per month from their children's non-custodial parent and around half of the children in separated families have less than monthly contact with their non-custodial parent. So essentially, 50% of the custodial parents are having no personal time, no social life and no support. Some of the custodial parents have families to fall back on, but there is a large percentage who don't, therefore don't have the time, effort or opportunity to find someone new in their lives or just enjoy their friends without their kids at their heels.
So when someone says they are a single parent, ask them how often they have their kids and how much support they get, and then show them as much compassion as they deserve... because single parents are the unsung heroes of this world, and they need to feel loved and appreciated too...
Source: http://www.abs.gov.au/ausstats/abs@.nsf/2f762f95845417aeca25706c00834efa/49d8fa47b11000caca2570ec00111f17!OpenDocument
But as a separated family, the responsibility of the planned activities for your children is usually left to the one parent and there is a stigma for the other parent to think that one parent is dictating, or controlling the lives of the children and the other parent doesn't want to be controlled by their ex-partner anymore, so they refuse to be involved.
Some families are lucky, and have amicable relationships with their ex-partners, share the costs of raising their children together, have equal time with their children, enabling each parent to have a life outside their family unit and are able to have a balanced life. Others, those who have their children 100% of the time, are generally given smaller support payments, have no physical support and have rare or no contact with their children's other parent. It's contact that becomes more intrusive than productive. But the parent who has the 100% custody has no life of their own as they spend all their time working to survive, take care of their children and the general housework/accounting needed to run a household. There's no spare money to hire a babysitter, not enough hours in the day to do everything and they wake up each morning to exist, not live. Most understand it's a temporary situation until their children are old enough to be more independent and maybe start contributing to the household financially, but others can't see any light.
Statistics show that 30% of single parents receive less than $150 per child per month from their children's non-custodial parent and around half of the children in separated families have less than monthly contact with their non-custodial parent. So essentially, 50% of the custodial parents are having no personal time, no social life and no support. Some of the custodial parents have families to fall back on, but there is a large percentage who don't, therefore don't have the time, effort or opportunity to find someone new in their lives or just enjoy their friends without their kids at their heels.
So when someone says they are a single parent, ask them how often they have their kids and how much support they get, and then show them as much compassion as they deserve... because single parents are the unsung heroes of this world, and they need to feel loved and appreciated too...
Source: http://www.abs.gov.au/ausstats/abs@.nsf/2f762f95845417aeca25706c00834efa/49d8fa47b11000caca2570ec00111f17!OpenDocument
Wednesday, 13 June 2012
Pashing!
I was listening to a radio discussion the other day about 'pashing.' French kissing, tongue locking, lustful kissing, and they were saying that 'passing' generally leaves a relationship after the first two years.
Now, the female radio announcers, who are about my age (late 30s, early 40s) agreed that the 'pash' had always left their relationships after the first two years... I just don't get it. Is it them? Or is it me? As 'pashing' is part of the intense love making experience that brings us to the foreplay stage, or right into the guts of hot passionate sex!
For me and my relationships, the passionate kiss never left the building, as the kiss is the most intimate part of the love-making experience. Maybe they were talking about 'pashing' without the sex part? Where you stand in the kitchen making dinner together, dip the wooden spoon in the pot to see if your tasty nightly offering is just right, then share it with your partner, and the closeness of the spoon to your mouth, and their head to you, engages the 'lean in' and his smouldering eyes bring you in closer to lock lips into the passionate kiss. Maybe that's the part that they are missing... but there are other occasions it can come to the party... stepping out of a steamy shower and noticing how hot your man is, cuddling up on the couch watching your favourite movie together, a night out at the cinema in the back row as if you were teenagers again.
And I don't think age is a barrier either. I used to 'pash' my 54 year old lover in public when we met at the airport, or had candlelit a la carte dinners in high class restaurants. If you truly love someone, are excited about being in their presence, and feel you can never get enough of them, the 'pash' should be part of your daily existence. It adds vitality to your relationship, knowing that you really can't embrace the day without your partner. A pash is like a 'happy pill' that keeps you tingling all day.
It's amazing, as before I first physically met my internet man, he was totally against public displays of affection, but then he met me, and was transformed! If people are embarrassed by seeing your outward love for each other, that's their problem - most likely stemmed from jealousy, as they aren't getting the same love and attention as you are.
I would love to hear other's views on 'pashing,' how much they are getting, if it has died from their relationship or if it's only when they have sex.
Now, the female radio announcers, who are about my age (late 30s, early 40s) agreed that the 'pash' had always left their relationships after the first two years... I just don't get it. Is it them? Or is it me? As 'pashing' is part of the intense love making experience that brings us to the foreplay stage, or right into the guts of hot passionate sex!
For me and my relationships, the passionate kiss never left the building, as the kiss is the most intimate part of the love-making experience. Maybe they were talking about 'pashing' without the sex part? Where you stand in the kitchen making dinner together, dip the wooden spoon in the pot to see if your tasty nightly offering is just right, then share it with your partner, and the closeness of the spoon to your mouth, and their head to you, engages the 'lean in' and his smouldering eyes bring you in closer to lock lips into the passionate kiss. Maybe that's the part that they are missing... but there are other occasions it can come to the party... stepping out of a steamy shower and noticing how hot your man is, cuddling up on the couch watching your favourite movie together, a night out at the cinema in the back row as if you were teenagers again.
And I don't think age is a barrier either. I used to 'pash' my 54 year old lover in public when we met at the airport, or had candlelit a la carte dinners in high class restaurants. If you truly love someone, are excited about being in their presence, and feel you can never get enough of them, the 'pash' should be part of your daily existence. It adds vitality to your relationship, knowing that you really can't embrace the day without your partner. A pash is like a 'happy pill' that keeps you tingling all day.
It's amazing, as before I first physically met my internet man, he was totally against public displays of affection, but then he met me, and was transformed! If people are embarrassed by seeing your outward love for each other, that's their problem - most likely stemmed from jealousy, as they aren't getting the same love and attention as you are.
I would love to hear other's views on 'pashing,' how much they are getting, if it has died from their relationship or if it's only when they have sex.
Saturday, 9 June 2012
Gratitude
My year hasn't gone to plan so far. I keep getting kicked in the teeth for making bold moves, wanting to transform my life into something new, wanting to break free from what has essentially been a million strings pulling back to my home base, when all I want to do is be set free and discover who I am and who I can be without all the attachments. I feel like I'm going up shit creek without a paddle. Absolutely nowhere. So today I bought myself a 'gratitude diary.'
Kikki K sell them, as well as other diaries for goals, diets, inspiration, students, scrapbooking diaries, albums, and anything else you want to keep as a keepsake. I bought it, as it seems like I'm not going anywhere fast, so I'd better be grateful for what I have today, so I can grow for tomorrow.
It is so hard not being where your heart wants to be. Almost impossible. My heart wants to be where I can climb mountains (not hills, like we have in Australia), taste fresh mountain water, feel the dry sun heat on my skin so it can prickle and I can feel alive. I want to breath in fresh air and I want to write about it... write about it like it's in my present, not a recollection of my past. I want life to slow down, I want to know what it's like to 'feel' again, as the numbness inside is literally overwhelming... but as I can't have all that, I must be grateful for what I do have.
The first thing I'm grateful for, is my two boys. They have the most loving hearts, they are the best of friends, and they know how to look after their mum in times when I should be looking after them. They are my best friends, and I share my life with them in every way possible, because we are like the Three Musketeers, there for each other when we need each other. I hear stories about how my boys look after each other on the school playgrounds, that they look out for each other when they need some help amongst their peers. They truly are the best sons a mother could wish for, even if they do fight and get under each other's skin sometimes, there is more love between them that annoyance and bitterness.
The second thing I'm grateful for is my global network of friends. I have friends in London, the US, New Zealand, Tokyo (who's almost about to move back to Switzerland!), Brazil, Singapore... friends in almost every corner of the world, and no matter what time of day it is, I can contact them and stretch out my network to my other friends. I love knowing that they can travel and surround themselves in nature's beauty, something that I try to do, as small as it seems, everyday.
And my third thing today, was even though I kept putting off buying some urgent things for the boys and I due to reducing the load to travel, I caved today and bought the boys some new clothes, and some make-up for me... and every single thing I bought was heavily discounted!! The boy's clothes were 30% off, my make-up was 50% off and my Gratitude diary was 75% off (as they gave me a $20 discount in May to buy something in the shop in June)! Gotta love a day like that!
So now I have some quiet time, and I'm going to write the next chapter of my 2nd draft of 'On the Road to the Best Orgasm Ever' - the book I've been working on now for two years... the book that I have huge hopes on to change my life...
Kikki K sell them, as well as other diaries for goals, diets, inspiration, students, scrapbooking diaries, albums, and anything else you want to keep as a keepsake. I bought it, as it seems like I'm not going anywhere fast, so I'd better be grateful for what I have today, so I can grow for tomorrow.
It is so hard not being where your heart wants to be. Almost impossible. My heart wants to be where I can climb mountains (not hills, like we have in Australia), taste fresh mountain water, feel the dry sun heat on my skin so it can prickle and I can feel alive. I want to breath in fresh air and I want to write about it... write about it like it's in my present, not a recollection of my past. I want life to slow down, I want to know what it's like to 'feel' again, as the numbness inside is literally overwhelming... but as I can't have all that, I must be grateful for what I do have.
The first thing I'm grateful for, is my two boys. They have the most loving hearts, they are the best of friends, and they know how to look after their mum in times when I should be looking after them. They are my best friends, and I share my life with them in every way possible, because we are like the Three Musketeers, there for each other when we need each other. I hear stories about how my boys look after each other on the school playgrounds, that they look out for each other when they need some help amongst their peers. They truly are the best sons a mother could wish for, even if they do fight and get under each other's skin sometimes, there is more love between them that annoyance and bitterness.
The second thing I'm grateful for is my global network of friends. I have friends in London, the US, New Zealand, Tokyo (who's almost about to move back to Switzerland!), Brazil, Singapore... friends in almost every corner of the world, and no matter what time of day it is, I can contact them and stretch out my network to my other friends. I love knowing that they can travel and surround themselves in nature's beauty, something that I try to do, as small as it seems, everyday.
And my third thing today, was even though I kept putting off buying some urgent things for the boys and I due to reducing the load to travel, I caved today and bought the boys some new clothes, and some make-up for me... and every single thing I bought was heavily discounted!! The boy's clothes were 30% off, my make-up was 50% off and my Gratitude diary was 75% off (as they gave me a $20 discount in May to buy something in the shop in June)! Gotta love a day like that!
So now I have some quiet time, and I'm going to write the next chapter of my 2nd draft of 'On the Road to the Best Orgasm Ever' - the book I've been working on now for two years... the book that I have huge hopes on to change my life...
Thursday, 31 May 2012
Betrayal...
I have a friend going through a situation at the moment where she dearly wants someone in her life, and he seems to want her in his life, but he has decided that he is betraying his family and wife by having her as his lover, and has decided to keep her there as a friend, but no longer a lover.
Hmmm... is that still a betrayal to his family? Me thinks so.
Because, even if his wife or family found out about their communication, their friendship is still clandestine, therefore his family would consider it still to be a betrayal, as they should know who his friends are, and he should be able to speak about his friends openly. Hmmm... but he doesn't!
So, does my friend tell her 'ex-lover cum friend' that if they are friends, then he needs to tell his family about her and be open and honest about her to them; or they might as well continue on as lovers, because either way, he is still betraying his family.
Men just don't get it... they think that sex is what is the intimacy factor of their relationship, when really, it's the confiding and intimacy of conversation, that is where their wives lose all trust in them.
And the most amazing thing about all of this, is that his wife has been receiving information that he is up to no good, and he still continues the 'friendship' with my friend. And he tells my friend about it!! If he truly loved his wife and family more than my friend, he would have told my friend to leave him alone for good a long time ago... but he doesn't. For over a year now, they continue to communicate several times a day, see each other a few days a week, and literally have a wonderful time together.
So what's my friend say about all this? The problem is, she loves him. She knows they have something amazing between them, something that he and his wife just don't have. She knows she deserves better than being someone's sidekick, but she's willing to see it through because what they have seems to work with her lifestyle. She knows he will never leave his wife, and that's fine by her, because she doesn't want a full time lover. She just wants him to recognise what he's actually doing, and do the double life properly - loving both his wife and his mistress they way they both need, or give one away.
Really, men are their own worst enemies, aren't they? :)
Hmmm... is that still a betrayal to his family? Me thinks so.
Because, even if his wife or family found out about their communication, their friendship is still clandestine, therefore his family would consider it still to be a betrayal, as they should know who his friends are, and he should be able to speak about his friends openly. Hmmm... but he doesn't!
So, does my friend tell her 'ex-lover cum friend' that if they are friends, then he needs to tell his family about her and be open and honest about her to them; or they might as well continue on as lovers, because either way, he is still betraying his family.
Men just don't get it... they think that sex is what is the intimacy factor of their relationship, when really, it's the confiding and intimacy of conversation, that is where their wives lose all trust in them.
And the most amazing thing about all of this, is that his wife has been receiving information that he is up to no good, and he still continues the 'friendship' with my friend. And he tells my friend about it!! If he truly loved his wife and family more than my friend, he would have told my friend to leave him alone for good a long time ago... but he doesn't. For over a year now, they continue to communicate several times a day, see each other a few days a week, and literally have a wonderful time together.
So what's my friend say about all this? The problem is, she loves him. She knows they have something amazing between them, something that he and his wife just don't have. She knows she deserves better than being someone's sidekick, but she's willing to see it through because what they have seems to work with her lifestyle. She knows he will never leave his wife, and that's fine by her, because she doesn't want a full time lover. She just wants him to recognise what he's actually doing, and do the double life properly - loving both his wife and his mistress they way they both need, or give one away.
Really, men are their own worst enemies, aren't they? :)
Wednesday, 30 May 2012
Past, Present, Future
I was thinking about how some people live in the past, others live for the present and others look to the future. I must admit, in some things, I'm a 'past' person, in other things, I'm a 'future' person, and not much of a 'present' person. So let me explain what I mean...
As a 'past' person, I cling heavily onto things people have said to me, bad or good. I remember things like, if someone says they prefer to be treated a certain way, then I will be true to that, if someone says they didn't like how someone treated them in a certain way, then I will be diligent to remember that and not go down the same path. If someone said something hurtful or something that blows me away with love and affection, those feelings will stay with me forever, even if circumstances change, the hurts or the loving words will always be with me.
And this is where I get myself undone. I will bring up those hurts or those loving words, or even the way someone suggested they prefer to be treated, mid-fight, mid-loving moment or even just mid-conversation, and I get strange looks, like - 'I said that a long time ago, why are you bringing that up now?', even if that 'long time ago' was only a matter of weeks. Mainly because those feelings, words or actions were something that were so powerful for me, that they affected the relationship that I have with that person, good or bad, and will live with me, possibly build up in me adding to my frustrations with that person or my love for that person, waiting to explode.
So is this really healthy, and should I learn to forgive the past and be more in tune with the present? I guess the real answer is 'yes.' But how is that possible, especially when you've been programmed to 'feel' a certain way? I guess it's understanding and realising what's worth holding onto, and what's not. Ending an argument with forgiveness, and forgetting. Of course, if a pattern arises and you feel like you are going in circles, then you have to learn to get off the merry-go-round and create new ways to live in a relationship, or let it go, but if the relationship is important to you, you both have to be willing to make the sacrifices to appease each other's needs. On the other side of the coin, when all words are positively loving but actions aren't backing up the love and affection (or vice versa), then you need to step back and see what the reality is. And that can be really hard to do...
As for me being a 'future' person, I tend to 'plan' a lot. Some people in my life prefer to take life one day at a time and don't like my passion for planning; others want to know the step-by-step accounts of my thought processes for their security in 'my security,' or how my future actions will affect them. Planning has its place, and some relationships have a foreseeable future, others are happy to be lived day by day. And I'm OK with that. But I've learnt with my planning that I do need to take each step one at a time, because if one step breaks and I don't have a new staircase to fall back onto, then I've got nowhere to go.
I'm sure there are a few of you out there who understand where I'm coming from, and I guess in the end, it's all human nature. But we all need to be more open about how we feel, respect each other's feelings and learn to live more in harmony. Life's too short to be holding grudges and hurts, but pivotal moments have to be made, possibly sacrificed to show mutual respect within a relationship. And I believe the key to it all is mutuality - knowing the boundaries of who you are dealing with and sincerely respecting them, as they should for you.
As a 'past' person, I cling heavily onto things people have said to me, bad or good. I remember things like, if someone says they prefer to be treated a certain way, then I will be true to that, if someone says they didn't like how someone treated them in a certain way, then I will be diligent to remember that and not go down the same path. If someone said something hurtful or something that blows me away with love and affection, those feelings will stay with me forever, even if circumstances change, the hurts or the loving words will always be with me.
And this is where I get myself undone. I will bring up those hurts or those loving words, or even the way someone suggested they prefer to be treated, mid-fight, mid-loving moment or even just mid-conversation, and I get strange looks, like - 'I said that a long time ago, why are you bringing that up now?', even if that 'long time ago' was only a matter of weeks. Mainly because those feelings, words or actions were something that were so powerful for me, that they affected the relationship that I have with that person, good or bad, and will live with me, possibly build up in me adding to my frustrations with that person or my love for that person, waiting to explode.
So is this really healthy, and should I learn to forgive the past and be more in tune with the present? I guess the real answer is 'yes.' But how is that possible, especially when you've been programmed to 'feel' a certain way? I guess it's understanding and realising what's worth holding onto, and what's not. Ending an argument with forgiveness, and forgetting. Of course, if a pattern arises and you feel like you are going in circles, then you have to learn to get off the merry-go-round and create new ways to live in a relationship, or let it go, but if the relationship is important to you, you both have to be willing to make the sacrifices to appease each other's needs. On the other side of the coin, when all words are positively loving but actions aren't backing up the love and affection (or vice versa), then you need to step back and see what the reality is. And that can be really hard to do...
As for me being a 'future' person, I tend to 'plan' a lot. Some people in my life prefer to take life one day at a time and don't like my passion for planning; others want to know the step-by-step accounts of my thought processes for their security in 'my security,' or how my future actions will affect them. Planning has its place, and some relationships have a foreseeable future, others are happy to be lived day by day. And I'm OK with that. But I've learnt with my planning that I do need to take each step one at a time, because if one step breaks and I don't have a new staircase to fall back onto, then I've got nowhere to go.
I'm sure there are a few of you out there who understand where I'm coming from, and I guess in the end, it's all human nature. But we all need to be more open about how we feel, respect each other's feelings and learn to live more in harmony. Life's too short to be holding grudges and hurts, but pivotal moments have to be made, possibly sacrificed to show mutual respect within a relationship. And I believe the key to it all is mutuality - knowing the boundaries of who you are dealing with and sincerely respecting them, as they should for you.
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